The adventures and confessions of a single girl, travel junkie, shopaholic, amateur photographer, prodigal scrapbooker, social drinker, public servant, sister, daughter, friend, klutz, and nap time professional who keeps looking for the hidden meaning in it all. These are the scenes from my life.
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
the truth is
The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. you just have to find the ones worth suffering for.
I think that intention matters...I know that I am overly sensitive and can make an innocent comment or action into something hurtful. I understand, to a point, what you mean with your statement...hopefully it means that there is someone out there that we can love unconditionally and vice versa...but I also think that we empower others too much by ALLOWING them to control our emotions. It's like grabbing a cigarette or alcoholic drink or punching a wall to "calm us down" after someone has pissed us off. We've actually given that other person all of the power and are harming OURSELVES over their words or actions.
Not to go all psycho-babble on you but I think maybe it's the amount of pain you feel from others is in reverse relation to the amount of love you have for yourself.
or maybe ... MAYBE ... you care about people more than they care about you. because they expect things from you and need you and swear they have changed and promise NOT to let you down. but then they do.
so you can either not trust them. or learn the really more important (and much harder) practice of forgiveness.
i know that i care about people with the assumption they care about me. and when i find out i was like in the right place at the right time for them and they really don't even remember why we care for each other. i know it doesn't make sense.
but i think you're right. trust those who are worth it, forgive those who maybe fuck it up, and i know you love yourself. you better. i love you. and you're stronger than some "i don't love myself poor me" kinda girl.
The truth is everybody's different and nobody's ever going to understand you 100% or think/react 100% like you would have. And sometimes that hurts.
ReplyDeleteI think that intention matters...I know that I am overly sensitive and can make an innocent comment or action into something hurtful. I understand, to a point, what you mean with your statement...hopefully it means that there is someone out there that we can love unconditionally and vice versa...but I also think that we empower others too much by ALLOWING them to control our emotions. It's like grabbing a cigarette or alcoholic drink or punching a wall to "calm us down" after someone has pissed us off. We've actually given that other person all of the power and are harming OURSELVES over their words or actions.
ReplyDeleteNot to go all psycho-babble on you but I think maybe it's the amount of pain you feel from others is in reverse relation to the amount of love you have for yourself.
or maybe ... MAYBE ... you care about people more than they care about you. because they expect things from you and need you and swear they have changed and promise NOT to let you down. but then they do.
ReplyDeleteso you can either not trust them. or learn the really more important (and much harder) practice of forgiveness.
i know that i care about people with the assumption they care about me. and when i find out i was like in the right place at the right time for them and they really don't even remember why we care for each other. i know it doesn't make sense.
but i think you're right. trust those who are worth it, forgive those who maybe fuck it up, and i know you love yourself. you better. i love you. and you're stronger than some "i don't love myself poor me" kinda girl.